In my 20s I spent a few years living and traveling the world with a guy who was a half-Greek, half-Scottish-American coffee addict/connoisseur (so, super calm), and we enjoyed the coffee traditions in many different countries. One of his favorite activities included berating me in public about how good coffee was wasted on someone like me, who doesn’t appreciate the true flavor, since I ruin it with milk and (at the time) sugar. He would openly tell barristas-or the national equivalent-to use their crappiest coffee on me because I’d never know the difference. It’s a good thing he was hot.
At home, on the weekends he would make our coffee, and even though it insulted him to the very core, he learned how to make my coffee exactly how I liked it, full of blasphemy and heresy in his own personal caffeinated religion. Monday through Friday, however, the coffee-making role fell to me, and he wouldn’t stir from the bed until I wafted his coffee cup underneath his nose, at which point he would groan, stretch and reach out like a blind man while lovingly begging for his ‘dark master.’ Some mornings it was cute, others annoying, but as part of my pre-work morning ritual, I didn’t mind it. Besides, as far as I was concerned, I was getting the better deal. I had to get up 5 minutes earlier on the days we had to get up early anyway, whereas he got up earlier than necessary on weekends, while I was able to luxuriate under the covers for another few minutes. He also cooked really well, so I also got a lovely Saturday breakfast most of the time. Baked goods fell to me to create, because he abhorred and railed against any activity in which anyone told him what to do, and that included cookbooks. If he could make delicious food by experimenting, he was all for it, but the second he had to follow instructions-and baking is a delicate chemical balance that you can’t mess with much without turning chocolate chip cookies into chocolate chip soup-that kind of food was stupid and not worth making or consuming. Except coffee. He would listen to people tell him how to make coffee in their own culture’s style with a dreamy smile on his face, unless of course that person dared to tell him there was anything but perfection in his way of making Greek coffee.
So as long as you didn’t criticize the Great Love of My 20s, he was enthralled with all things coffee, and loved to learn about it from others. In Taiwan, though he loved talking (mostly miming, as we ran through our combined Mandarin-English repertoire in about 45 seconds) to the coffee roaster whose little shop had just enough room for his wife to run a wee jewelry business on the side as we sat at the wooden makeshift ‘bar’ in front of the roaster and his beans as he poured us different shots of coffee to taste, and he really loved Vietnamese coffee in Hanoi and the highlands of northern Vietnam, when push came to shove, deep down he believed that Greek coffee was the best in the world.
He carried around his briki, or Greek coffee pot, to every country where we lived, and his father or aunt in London, living in the Greek neighborhoods (Cypriot Greek to be precise) would periodically supply us with the fine-ground coffee that it required.
The first time I saw his briki (which sounds kinda pervy when taken out of context), I was a little confused. It was almost identical to something my mother had had when I was little, only hers was blue (she says it was green but she’s old and addled and her memory is color blind). I have no idea where she got it-whether it was a gift she didn’t know how to use and so gave a purpose to or whether she found it at a garage sale and thought “Great Scott, this would make the most perfect butter melter EVER! I must have it and pay no more than 50 cents for it.” We were kind of poor when I was little. Mom used to place the briki-butter melter beside the hot burner of her electric stove as she made popcorn, with a slab of butter inside. The butter would melt slowly, never scorching because it wasn’t on the burner itself, and then she would pour it elegantly over her bowl of popcorn, distributing it so well that my budding OCD was delighted by the entire ritual. You may be guessing my age right now, based on the fact that my mother popped popcorn in a pot, therefore before microwaves or air poppers, but alas, mom STILL makes popcorn in the pot, and so do I. She always starts with just three kernels in the oil, and when the first one pops she pours in the rest. As do I now. The first time my stepsister saw this, she was full of dismay, thinking mom was making three pieces of popcorn at a time and we’d be there all night waiting for a handful. But we just believe in our traditions, and maybe our family traditions aren’t as cool as some, but we cling to them furiously.
So, upon first glance at a briki I thought to myself, “Damn, this guy is REALLY serious about his butter on his popcorn. That’s kind of insane to travel with, but at the same time, this may be my soul mate.” In the same way that he had a coffee addiction, I have a bit of a problem with popcorn: if it’s in the house, I’ll make it. In France, when the Great Love of My 20s (hereafter referred to as GLM2) had to work late, I usually didn’t have the energy to make a nice dinner, so would make popcorn. He didn’t approve, as there isn’t a whole lot of nutrition in it and to be fair, the gastrointestinal system probably doesn’t want popcorn kernels to process 4 days per week, but I couldn’t resist. Once, when we were out of butter and olive oil, I reached into a can of duck fat left over from some duck thighs that had been canned in their fat, and popped the corn using that. It was honestly finger-licking good. Sadly the aroma of popped corn-even in the drippings of waterfowl- sticks in the nooks and crannies of an apartment, so he’d come home from the restaurant where he worked at 1am, and scream “GodDAMMit did you make popcorn for dinner again?” You might think that this was insensitive of him, to wake me up when I’d been in bed for hours. You might be right. Man was he hot. And generally I didn’t really fall asleep until he got home anyway, as he rode a bike down poorly-lit streets to get home and I was worried, but on the rare occasion that he did wake me up, I could greet him kindly, once the disorientation wore off, with “Well, as soon as you want to get a real job instead of waiting tables at Le Jungle Café where they only hired you because they say you look and sound like Indiana Jones with long hair, then we can make dinner together again and I’ll get enough nutrition that you can stop worrying about my teeth falling out and you being saddled with an old hag until you die.” As a half-Greek, he liked to yell, but he liked to laugh just as much, so depending on his mood that would either turn into a no-holds-barred war of insults, or he’d chuckle, tell me I’d be cute even toothless, and fall into bed with me. The GLM2 was an international man of mystery. Except where coffee was concerned.
Clearly, the Greek way-the best way-to make coffee is a many-splendored thing. There is an entire ritual around it, not unlike the way mom and I make popcorn, only totally different because popcorn and coffee are consumed in polar opposite ways. But the fact that there is a specific order and placement and way of doing the whole thing, and that we feel strongly that it must be done in precisely that way in order to be done right-that is similar.
It turns out that, like so many other things, Greek coffee and Turkish coffee are basically the same. But one should never tell either ethnic group that because, even though Greece was under Ottoman Turkish rule from 1453 until 1821 and then when Atatürk took power of Turkey in 1923 and the two nations did their population exchange so that all Greeks lived in Greece and all Turks in Turkey (way to celebrate diversity, Kemal), they hate each other. Sometimes. Turks also hate being confused with Arabs. I get it. When someone thinks I’m a short German-and every time I go to Germany, other Germans ask me for directions, “Excuse me, dwarf fraulein, but where is the banhoff, bitte?”-I get really pissed off. Oh wait, no, I think that’s hysterical. Germans think I’m the Mini-Me of the Rhine. Because the Ottoman Empire ruled so many Arab nations for so long (and traded with them for even longer), the languages have a ton of vocabulary overlap, but the grammar of the two languages is totally different. Greeks also borrowed a few Turkish phrases, though they only admit it grudgingly. Imam bayildi, an eggplant dish considered both Greek and Turkish, literally means “the imam passed out [presumably because it was so delicious]” and there’s no way a Greek will convince me that they didn’t get that name from their erstwhile sisters in Asia Minor. The population exchange makes me so sad, to think that there might be less conflict and better cooperation between certain groups if they hadn’t decided that the best way to run country was to homogenize as much as possible. But they certainly weren’t alone in that at the time, and Turks now get to claim to be European when it suits them, Asian when they want, and sometimes they claim to be nothing but Turkish, unique in the whole world. And clearly they invented Turkish coffee. and everyone knows this. Except the Greeks.
The briki, as I knew it from my half-Greek GLM2, is just as important in Turkish coffee, but they call it Cezve. Apparently they also have the word ibrik, but I never heard anyone use it. The root is from the Arabic word ibriq, though a Greek might be more likely to tell you that the Arabs borrowed it from them. “Give me a word, any word, I tell you how is Greek in origin…”
With the GLM2, I learned how to make Turkish coffee, but the briki is a temperamental thing, and if you take your eyes off of it for that crucial .5-second window when it goes from ‘not at all ready and if you serve me at this point you’re a fool and a greenhorn’ to ‘I’m boiling over and burnt and ruined and you have to start over and may God have mercy on your soul, but if the Almighty drinks coffee and sees how you have abused me you’ll spend all eternity in perdition.’ And my attention span is such that watching a pot almost boil is not high on my list of priorities. Eventually the GLM2 stopped letting me make his Turkish–oops, I mean Greek–coffee for him in the morning and we’d only have it on the weekend. This was fine with me, as the grounds are so fine that you have to wait for them to settle at the bottom of the cup before you can drink the coffee itself. When you like your coffee with milk and/or sugar, the inability to stir it without dredging up the swamp tends to make it a lot less palatable, so Greek coffee was never my thing.
In Turkey, however, the ritual really is quite fun, even if I don’t enjoy the straight coffee flavor that much, because you get some little sweets on the side, like Turkish delight if you’re lucky, and a glass of water-I surmise to help rinse the sludge out of your mouth when you drink the coffee too soon or fail to leave the 8% at the bottom that is primarily composed of the grounds. The best part comes after you finish your coffee, when, invariably, one of the Turks in the group of people with you will offer to read your fortune in the grounds. Being Turkish and having had a grandmother seem to be the only qualifications you need.
So, as far as I can tell, you finish your coffee to the best of your ability, wishing you were a baleen whale with filters in your mouth that wouldn’t lets the dregs pass into your throat, then sluice the remains around in the cup a few times, and then turn it over onto the saucer. If you want to ask a question about love, you place a ring on top of the cup as the dregs slump down toward the saucer; if you’re interested in your financial fortunes, you do the same but with a coin.
Leave the cup and saucer a few minutes so that the fortune can solidify. At this point, if you were actually telling a fortune, you’d have a conversation full of leading questions so that by the time you flipped the cup back over you’d already have figured out what the other person wanted to hear. Then, good and marinated, it’s time to flip. You can read both the cup and the saucer, but I prefer the cup because it makes me feel like I’m in Harry Potter’s Divination class.
“Very unfortunate things happening, oh dear, call your mother, and WHA….it’s a grim.”
I don’t just make popcorn and melt the butter in a Turkish coffee pot, I then eat it while watching fantasy movies. Turkish/Greek coffee, however interesting though they may be, just don’t make it into my fantasy. Not this one, at any rate. I will always love coffee, but since I take it with milk, it’s not all that dark of a master. And I can resist coffee if it’s in the house, but not popcorn, which I must make 1-2x per day until it is all gone or my intestines blow a hole in them from too many stuck kernel. So perhaps I have a pale master. Alabaster master. Maize master. Perhaps. For certain, I should not quit my day job.